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Self Compassion and Social Anxiety – Hypnotherapy in Ely and Newmarket

by Dan Regan | Nov 8, 2022 | Anxiety Stress and Panic Attacks

Self Compassion and Social Anxiety – Hypnotherapy in Ely and Newmarket

When I used to struggle with social anxiety, perhaps one of the most detrimental things I used to do came from the excessive level to which I would be hard, negative and harsh upon myself. Never mind what anyone else was thinking (probably nothing if we are honest), I would chastise, criticise and berate myself over any slight perceived failing or embarrassment. If I felt I’d said something stupid, done something not quite perfectly, or if I missed the opportunity to do something positive, then that self-critical inner voice would be there.

And, swith social anxiety, that inner voice and the way we communicate with ourselves, probably won’t stop with just the current perceived self-failing. In my case, it will probably then also drag out a whole load of the other past mistakes and other justifications for considering myself to be a failure, stupid or an idiot in some way. A lack of self compassion, self encouragement and support can easily exacerbate and consolidate that social anxiety and the worries about failing or being judged negatively by others.

A lack of self compassion and kindness to yourself, and a habitual tendency towards self-criticism and negative self judgements, can feed your ongoing social anxiety and contribute to more generalised anxiety, lowness, perfectionism and low self esteem.

Yet, of course, just because your social anxiety patterns of thinking and feeling currently lead to worry, negativity and lowness, doesn’t mean that you are stuck that way. It is possible to learn how to be more balanced and rational in your own thoughts and feelings towards yourself, to even encourage yourself sometimes, to recognise that sometimes things do go awry and to to feel more comfortable in your own skin so that you can be more relaxed around other people.

Moving Out Of Your Comfort Zone – Hypnotherapy in Ely and Newmarket

by Dan Regan | Oct 20, 2022 | Confidence and Self Esteem

Moving Out Of Your Comfort Zone – Hypnotherapy in Ely and Newmarket

We’re told a lot that life begins at the edge, or outside, of our comfort zone. The message is clear, if you want to live a fulfilling life and to be happy, then you need to do more and more and newer and newer things.

And certainly there’s an element of truth in this. As humans, we are learning machines, we seek out novelty and grow accustomed to sameness. We can become stale and feel stuck in the same old routine if we aren’t stretching ourselves a bit. Getting a bit uncomfortable can make life more exciting and interesting, and it can add that good feeling that comes from giving effort and focus towards a desired goal.

Yet, despite that, I do think there can be happiness and reward even if you stay within your comfort zone. You don’t need to start jumping from planes, dropping off cliffs, speak in front of a thousand people or do any of those things that living outside your comfort zone can easily inspire in your imagination. You can stretch yourself within the realms of the areas you already enjoy. You can add variety and challenge into what you already enjoy, whether that’s exercise and sport, playing an instrument, in your workplace or whatever. You can feel comfortable in yourself and your environment as you push yourself on a bit.

And whilst usually I feel pretty comfortable in myself within my own routine, especially when it comes to my high intensity training and running, there’s still room for getting comfortable with feeling uncomfortable and room to try new things, experiment, set challenging goals and then put the work in towards them. Yet more recently, an opportunity has come up that has really pushed me outside of my own comfort zone in my training, yet which is bringing rich rewards beyond the ever oscillating mix of nervousness, fear, confidence and excitement.

Could Talking To Strangers Make You Happier? Hypnotherapy in Ely and Newmarket

by Dan Regan | Oct 13, 2022 | Confidence and Self Esteem

Could Talking To Strangers Make You Happier? Hypnotherapy in Ely and Newmarket

If you want to feel happier, could proactively starting up conversations with strangers help you to boost good feelings?

Naturally, if you want to get better at connecting with others, then it makes sense to start engaging more in conversation and to go about deliberately seeking opportunities to chat. The more you do it, the more comfortable it becomes and the more relaxed in yourself you will be.

For others, their confidence and self-esteem can get in the way of doing this. Yet, it may that by getting over any general reluctance to talk to strangers, and by ditching any worry about what they think or of failing and looking stupid, may help contribute to your overall levels of happiness and enjoyment of life.

Routinely, we often ignore strangers who are close by and around us. We put our heads down, stare at a book or a screen, and stay rooted in our own space and comfort zone. Even when we may like the idea of engaging and chatting, we often hold back and the moment passes. And, of course, sometimes solitude and space can be nice. It can be enjoyable to have some time to not have to think or engage or talk. Yet research suggests that interacting and connecting with others can be a positive experience (for you and for them), even if we mistakenly expect that not socially engaging will be the more likely to make us feel better.

So what does the research say, and what might be getting in the way of us all being more social with strangers and taking these regular opportunities for boosting our own well-being and happiness?

GOLD Business Award Winner!!! Hypnotherapy in Ely and Newmarket

by Dan Regan | Oct 6, 2022 | Hypnotherapy Hypnosis and NLP

GOLD Business Award Winner!!! Hypnotherapy in Ely and Newmarket

Blimey! I mentioned a while back that I had been shortlisted in the SME Ely Business Awards 2022 for service excellence and how I hoped to go one better that the silver award I won in 2021…

Well, it only went and happened!!

I am beyond delighted to be the gold winner for Service Excellence (many thanks to the award sponsors, Fraser Dawbarns LLP).

A huge thank you to all of you who have worked with me, supported me, recommended me and shared your positive feedback. Thank you so much!!!

Fear of Flying – Hypnotherapy in Ely and Newmarket

by Dan Regan | Sep 29, 2022 | Phobias and Fears

Fear of Flying – Hypnotherapy in Ely and Newmarket

Throughout the summer, I’ve been busy helping people to deal with their fear of flying so that they can head off to their destination while feeling more comfortable and in control.

I’ve also been over to the flight simulator centre in Mildenhall too, to deliver our fear of flying course. It’s always a huge positive to see someone walk through the door anxious and worried at everything flying related, and to leave feeling more calm and confident about flying.

As with all objects of anxiety and fear, your first strategy will always be avoidance. You try to get out of that business trip or to suggest some holiday alternatives and destinations that don’t require setting foot on a plane (or a metal box in which you are trapped and out of control, as you may perceive it). Some people get anxious about any mention of flying or a plane, even if it is about someone else. You might avoid programmes and films which involve a flight because of your anxious associations or because you imagine how bad you would feel if you were on that plane (and about to drop out of the sky to your death!!).

Others will start to feel more anxious once the flight is booked and the date is set in stone in your diary. You may try to pretend to yourself that it isn’t happening and try to ignore it. Yet, as the date approaches and you know you will soon be sitting on that plane for a while, your anxiety starts to escalate and take over (and you may still be wondering if there is some way of getting out of it).

And then there’s the ordeal of the airport, with all the hustle and bustle and planes and people, and the knowing that this it it, you are going on a plane and flying. The panic and discomfort can feel overwhelming. And that’s where learning about flying and how to control your thoughts and feelings becomes really handy indeed.

Hypnosis Audio Streaming – Hypnosis Downloads Ely & Newmarket

by Dan Regan | Sep 29, 2022 | Hypnotherapy Hypnosis and NLP

Hypnosis Audio Streaming Membership – Hypnosis Downloads Ely & Newmarket

I receive loads of positive feedback for my hypnosis downloads, whether that’s from my clients who are using them as a supplement to their sessions, or from people who invest in them having found my website. I put hours and hours into preparing, recording and publishing each individual hypnosis track, so it’s really important to me that you find them beneficial.

However, there are some issues with the technology and process of downloading the hypnosis audios that do come up from time to time. Sometimes your device may not like the files because of memory space, sometimes you download and save them and then can’t find them again the next time you want to listen to them, and sometimes you change device and the files get lost in the process. And, of course, sometimes people just can’t decide which of my hypnosis audios that would like the most and get stuck in trying to make that decision (so many good things to choose from!).

It’s important to me that you can use the hypnosis downloads to help with anxiety, stress, confidence, weight loss and other issues, wherever and whenever you like. That’s why I’ve created this solution so that you can listen to my hypnosis audios the hassle free way.

Nature, Fun and Walking in Wales – Hypnotherapy in Ely and Newmarket

by Dan Regan | Aug 30, 2022 | Hypnotherapy Hypnosis and NLP

Nature, Fun and Walking in Wales – Hypnotherapy in Ely and Newmarket

The summer holidays are slowly drawing to a close in the Regan household, and the kids will soon be heading back into the routine of the familiar school hustle and bustle. Alongside seeing clients and keeping up with my bootcamps, we’ve had some quieter days and some busier ones, some good news and some more challenging family news. In short, there’s been the usual, full whirlwind of things going on (and let’s all take a moment to remember the heatwave of 2022!).

Alongside all the daily business, we all headed off to Wales for a week of holiday near the (easy to pronounce if you are welsh) Ystradgynlais. One of my favourite things about our trips to Wales is listening to my wife and kids try to pronounce Welsh place names, a bit of fun that never gets tired!

We were staying in an isolated little house, alongside the river, and in a very peaceful location at the foot of a hill (or a mountain if you live in the Fens). It was lovely just sitting and watching the birds flying along the river and listening to the sound of the water meandering along.

Help With Cocaine Addiction – Hypnotherapy in Ely and Newmarket

by Dan Regan | Aug 30, 2022 | Addiction Help

Help With Cocaine Addiction – Hypnotherapy in Ely and Newmarket

Recently, I’ve been working with a whole bunch of people who want to end their cocaine addiction and break their habits around it.

Cocaine, like most drugs, is one of those things that bit by bit can start to take control over you. You may well have started out using when out with friends, alongside a few beers. At first it may have seemed fun and added to your experience. The buzz lifted you and allowed you to keep having fun for longer. Yet, at some point that fun, and the sense of being in control over your cocaine habit, started to diminish.

Maybe you found a night out wasn’t that great without any, maybe you needed it to focus and give you a boost and very likely you started getting strong cravings when in typical cocaine situations, or when you saw any or anyone who you could tell had been using gear.

When people finally come to see me about their cocaine use and need help to end it, they usually feel out of control, it will be affecting their work and relationships, they’ll be spending hundreds of pounds doing something they no longer enjoy, and they feel anxious and depressed about it all.

On the more positive side, once you’ve reached the low of feeling bad and controlled by your gear habit, the only way is to move forwards and start feeling better in yourself. And like most habits, those unwanted thoughts, feelings and behaviours that you are currently struggling with, are things that you can learn to take back control over using hypnotherapy.

Help with Fears and Phobias – Hypnotherapy in Ely and Newmarket

by Dan Regan | Aug 23, 2022 | Phobias and Fears

Help with Fears and Phobias – Hypnotherapy in Ely and Newmarket

I’m just back from a week in Wales with the girls. Whilst we hit the end of the recent heatwave while we were there, we also got to enjoy lovely rain! I never thought I could love the cooling Welsh drizzle so much!

On the way to Wales we seemed to hit every traffic jam, busy road and stoppage that you could possibly encounter. Remind me never to travel across the UK on a Friday again! Although we nearly didn’t travel on the Friday because we had it in our heads that we were leaving on the Saturday! Luckily we discovered the correct dates a couple of days beforehand (I’m blaming my wife for the mistake!! Only please don’t tell her that it turns out I had the correct dates written in my diary the whole time had I bothered to check!!).

While we whiled away the time stuck in traffic, my youngest mentioned that she’d recently watched a video that ran through the top one hundred fears and phobias. And what started as a game of how many could I correctly guess, soon turned into a game of how many have I helped people to overcome with hypnotherapy. The answer (unsurprisingly) is a lot! Aside from the most obscure ones (or easily avoidable), I must have helped people to deal with at least seventy five per cent of the fears and phobias listed.

Luckily for us, based on where we were staying, hills, woodland and rivers didn’t appear on the list (or at least not on the list of any one of us!).

Information Needs Among People with Depression and Anxiety – Hypnotherapy in Ely and Newmarket

by Dan Regan | Aug 5, 2022 | Anxiety Stress and Panic Attacks

Information Needs Among People with Depression and Anxiety – Hypnotherapy in Ely and Newmarket

Perhaps one of the challenging things about struggling with anxiety and depression comes from the uncertainty, the unknown and the fear that something is wrong with you. On top of that, there is the worry and dread that all of those unwanted thoughts and feelings may be things that endure and that you will have to always struggle with.

Anxiety and depression can fill your head with all sorts of worrying, fearful and stressful thoughts. These exacerbate all of the bad, uncomfortable and unwanted feelings you are experiencing, and in turn, those feelings add to even more of those unwanted thoughts that crowd your head. Even things that might ordinarily seem like little things, can get magnified and amplified inside your head until they seem like great battles to face and challenges to try and overcome.

To compound matters, you may find yourself withdrawing from your usual activities and from your friends, giving you yet more time to think and less to be distracted by. You may find your appetite is affected, that you drink more alcohol or caffeine and that you struggle to sleep. These things mean you are more stressed, agitated and tired, making everything seem much harder and burdensome (which adds even more unwanted and troublesome thoughts and feelings to the mass of things you are struggling with).

One of the most common early steps when you are struggling with your thoughts and feelings is to turn to the internet and try and work out what it is that you are experiencing. You just want to understand what is happening to you and what you can do to try and feel a bit better. You are worried that something is seriously wrong with you so it’s only natural to try and work out what it could be and how serious it is.

Unfortunately, within the mix of anxiety and depression information online, there are also many potential pitfalls, filled with inaccuracy and misleading information, that can exacerbate your worry, anxiety and stress. And there are many types of information about your anxiety and depression that you may seek out.

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