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If you struggle with panic attacks then chances are, because they are so overwhelming, you worry about having another one. The last thing you want to experience is that feeling inside, your heart racing, the panic, the feeling of being out of control and all the other symptoms of your panic attack.
And so to avoid having another panic attack, you may start avoiding going certain places or doing certain things. In some cases, you may even avoid going out altogether because of your worry and anxiety.
Recently I was working with a guy who had barely left his house for 6 months because of his anxiety and worry about having a panic attack away from home. Just the thought of going out made him feel anxious and when he did step outside, that feeling of panic would rapidly escalate. It was so severe that he just decided he was better off staying at home.
Yet a few sessions later and he is out and about every day and doing more and more things.
Do you hate going to the dentist? Is the thought of it enough to bring the nerves and fear that stop you going?
Along with needle phobia, dentist phobia is one of the most common fears I help people to overcome.
Most people with a fear of the dentist will do all they can to avoid making an appointment – they may go years without even a check up – until something happens like tooth pain and they are left with no choice.
And the nearer the appointment gets the more you feel anxious or try to not think about it. In the waiting room you may feel hot, sweaty, on edge and like you want to pace up and down the room. And once they call your name you may find that panic increases, sometimes even to the point of a panic attack where you have to get out of the dentist chair as quickly as possible.
I have worked with clients who in the past had been to the dentist four or five times, but every time their dentist fear had taken over and they had left without treatment. Some have even been told not to come back until they have sorted their dentist phobia.
Do you struggle wih exam anxiety and exam nerves?
It may be that exams have become an ordeal for you because of your panic and nerves. Whilst most people get some nerves before exams, if those feelings of anxiety and panic get too overwhelming they can stop you performing to the best of your ability (or sometimes you can’t even do the exam at all).
And the added pressure of knowing that, if you perform badly, you will disappoint family, teachers and yourself can intensify the anxiety.
Recently I was working with a student who was overwhlmed with exam anxiety and panic. The nearer the exams got, the worse the anxiety and, based on previous experiences, the worse he performed in the exam room.
Do you take the time to enjoy the little positive things in your life?
Too often you can get lost in focusing on only the big things – and you let all the good stuff that happens every day fall through the cracks of your life.
Maybe you tell yourself you’ll be happy when you earn this/have this/are free of this/own this etc and you forgo the enjoyment of the journey – and only to find when you get there you still don’t feel content.
So from today take the time to savour the little things.
As you go forward with your goals and dreams this year there will be plenty of people ready to knock you back, rain on your parade and tell you to stop wasting your time.
These people will drain you of your motivations, enthusiasm and joy.
And they may be doing it for good reason – maybe they want to protect you from wasting your time (in their opinion) or failing or falling flat on your face.
BUT…..
Do you struggle with anxiety around appointments, particularly medical appointments?
Many people with anxiety find that as meetings and commitments approach, their anxiety levels rise. Some won’t sleep the night before an appointment and many others start worrying days before, the volume of their thoughts and intensity of their anxious feelings increasing the closer it gets.
Recently, I helped Danni to end her anxiety around appintments for the detnist, doctor and optician. Here’s what she had to say:
Do you worry excessively about what others think about you?
Maybe you are scared of rejection or failing and so you put on a mask around others and feel anxious because you aren’t being yourself.
Worrying about what others think can drain your confidence and leave you feeling stuck, unhappy and avoiding doing or saying the things you really want to. You may worry about being criticised or messing up or freezing or in some other way giving people the opportunity to think badly about you.
Recently I was working with a client who would let others rule her life – she was too afraid to say no and be thought of badly or invite hostility – and so she put her own life on standby waiting to be called to help others live theirs.
And another person stayed in a job he hated that didn’t earn enough for him to live on because he felt he wasn’t good enough to move onto bigger and better things.
Think like Rocky for instant motivation!
Do you ever find you need more motivation to get going and get it done? Ever wish you had the energy and drive to get up and take action?
If your house was on fire or you’d just won the lottery you’d soon be getting up and taking action! But as I hope your house is ok and the odds of winning the lottery are pretty small, here’s another way to tap into that inner motivation to get stuff done.
Use this simple technique to quickly calm your anxiety.
When you feel anxious, the emotions can take over – you get all those anxious feelings and sensations and you probably just want to get out of that place to somewhere you can feel safe and calm down.
As well as those anxious feelings, you also get the anxious thoughts – people often describe it to me as a racing mind, or feeling overwhelmed or like they can’t think straight or concentrate.
It’s like there are two parts to your mind – the thinking part and the emotional, anxious part. When the anxiety increases, your ability to think clearly or rationally diminishes. You just can’t think straight like you do when you feel calm and relaxed.
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