Ely Cathedral Business Group are running their annual Celebration of Business until Thursday 21st May 2015.
I have a stand at the exhibition so if you are in Ely please do pop in and take a look.
And thanks to everyone who has already sent me best wishes and messages of support – I’m glad you all like my stand and I really do appreciate your support.
When I used to struggle with social anxiety, I would find most social occasions an anxious, worry-inducing struggle. I would worry beforehand about what people thought about me, I would constantly try and ‘read’ what others were thinking about what I was doing and saying whilst I was with them, and then I would dwell and replay situations in a negative way after the event.
I was constantly worried about not being good enough and being judged negatively by others.
Yet from an early age I thought that somehow I could push myself through it.
Are you stuck playing the waiting game and wondering why you aren’t getting the results in life that you want?
Recently I was working with a client who had spent many days – and many hours during those days – waiting for someone else to make a decision for him so that he wouldn’t have to make it himself.
He would worry, stress and lose sleep over it all. He would get angry, frustrated and self-critical while he waited. He would blame the other person for not making a decision and he felt resentful towards them.
Anxiety is an unhelpful use of your imagination – you imagine vivid scenarios of things going badly or going wrong and, in doing so, you create all those anxious feelings inside.
The more you run those worst case scenarios, the more anxious you feel. And the more anxious you feel the more you run those scenarios. It becomes a self-perpetuating cycle of anxiety.
Yet if you were watching a rubbish programme on TV you’d probably grab the remote and turn over wouldn’t you? You’d find something you’d rather watch.
To overcome your anxiety you need to learn to calm all the worry and anxiety and direct your mind in a more positive way. Anxiety thrives when you use your imagination in an unhelpful way by creating worst case scenarios and then feeling worried, uneasy and full of dread.
It may take some time and sometimes it will be easier than other times but you need to persevere and give your brain a break from all those worrying thoughts. To take control over anxiety you need to give your stressed, over working brain, more and more time off and rest so that the perspective of calm can gain a foot hold.
Social forums have been buzzing for weeks (at least in hypnosis circles!) in anticipation of the latest ITV hypnosis show – ‘You’re Back In The Room’ – which went out for the first time last Saturday.
And judging by articles and comments appearing since the show, it’s (as I think presenter Phillip Schofield tweeted) very much a marmite show – you either found it hilarious and can’t wait for next week or you thought it was lame, unfunny and a poor relation to the Generation Game.
As you can imagine, as a hypnotherapist I made sure I watched it to find out how hypnosis was going to be presented and also because I expect a lot of clients will be asking me about it during the coming weeks.
So what did I think of it?
Recently I was interviewed about my hypnotherapy in Ely & Newmarket by BBC Radio Cambridgeshire presenter Jeremy Sallis.
The interview formed part of his Workplace Wednesday feature and was broadcast on 11th March 2015.
If you missed the show and would like to listen it is available here until 10th April 2015:
Recently I was working with a client who was totally fed up of all those anxious and worrying scenarios going around her head, particularly when she was at work and needed to concentrate on what she was doing. They would keep coming back into her head time after time through the day and even stronger in the evening and when she was trying to get to sleep.
And all that worrying left her feeling anxious, tired and frustrated. The more she tried not to think about the anxiety, the harder it seemed to be for her to forget about it.
So here is a quick, simple and effective way to start taking back control over the scenarios running wild through your mind.
Do you struggle with a dog phobia?
In the video below, Alison explains how hypnotherapy helped her young daughter end her phobia of dogs. Before coming to see me, Katie was fearful of all dogs; she wouldn’t go near them and would actively avoid them. If she went to a friend’s house and they had a dog, she had to know in advance that it would be shut away before she would agree to go there.
As with any phobia you have, with a fear of dogs, you will be on high alert whenever they may be around. The fear and panic can be so overwhelming that you may avoid certain places, you may hear every dog bark and constantly check whether dogs are on a lead or could come closer.
Yet after just a few sessions, Katie was totally free of her dog phobia.
If you don’t try, you’ll never know.
So rather than living life with regrets and what-ifs: if you want it enough, get out there and make it happen!
If you need some help to take action then consider this:
Imagine it’s a year from now and you did nothing about moving forward with your dreams and goals. Really imagine how it feels in a year having done nothing about it – you didn’t even bother trying to make it happen for you. How bad would you feel? What regrets would you have?
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