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Recovering From Post Separation Abuse

by Dan Regan | Oct 26, 2025 | Hypnotherapy Hypnosis and NLP

Recovering From Post Separation Abuse

In this article, I’m covering healing and recovering from post separation abuse.

Post separation abuse refers to the continued control, intimidation and manipulation by one partner towards the other after the relationship has come to an end. The two people may not be in a relationship anymore, but the exertion of power and control continues as the perpetrator seeks to cause chaos in the other person’s life. It can affect anyone and usually takes place in private, hidden behind the false narratives that are shared by the abuser in public.

So many victims suffer in silence. They are worn down by the constant emotional and psychological abuse and controlling behaviours. One of the common traits of post separation abuse is to try and smear the other person, to try and dominate the views of others and isolate the target more and more. Some will turn their backs on the victim, many others will turn their heads and pretend there is nothing to see.

Post separation abuse is an ongoing pattern of controlling/coercive behaviour that continues after the end of a relationship. It’s all about an ex-partner seeking to exert power and control. There are some reports that suggest the prevalence of this form of, often hidden, abuse is increasing. For the target, it can turn post separation life into an ongoing nightmare of uncertainty, fear, despair and helplessness. In many instances, the behaviour intensifies as the ex-partner seeks to retain control and power, especially if they fear that you may escape their influence. Rather than easing over time, the opposite can happen.

Having endured post separation abuse myself, I believe it is important to raise awareness of this form of abuse and, in doing so, to aim to give others the hope and courage they need so that they too can heal, recover and move forward in their life.

How To Cope With A Smear Campaign

by Dan Regan | Oct 10, 2025 | Hypnotherapy Hypnosis and NLP

How To Cope With A Smear Campaign

Today I’m writing about how to cope with a smear campaign.

I’ve written before about how we overestimate how much other people think about what we say and do. Other people spend much less time thinking about us than sometimes we expect and imagine. Anxiety, low confidence and low self esteem can cause us to worry unnecessarily about failing or messing up in some way.

But what if someone or some people are talking about you? What if they are doing it to deliberately try and damage your reputation in the eyes of other people? What happens if they are posting untrue things about you on social media that everyone else can read? Hoe do you cope with a smear campaign when somebody, or some people, are trying to tear you down?

Imagine being aware of the whispers, hints and outright accusations about you. In a world of social media, false word spreads. It seems like people are shifting their glances and not answering your messages. You feel misunderstood, misrepresented and attacked. Not for things you did, but based on what others say you did. This is the painful power of a smear campaign.

I should know. I’ve been there. And if you are in this position, know that you are not powerless. The hurt, shock and confusion are real. But there are steps you can take to protect yourself, maintain your integrity and merge stronger. There is the internal mindset work you can do. And the external actions you can use to cope and rebuild.

Domestic Abuse Awareness Month

by Dan Regan | Oct 6, 2025 | Hypnotherapy Hypnosis and NLP

Domestic Abuse Awareness Month

October is Domestic Abuse Awareness Month. It’s a time to shine a light on a subject that sadly affects millions, often behind closed doors and in silence. Whether emotional, psychological, physical or financial, domestic abuse can leave deep scars, not just in the moment, but long after the abusive relationship has ended.

I’ve written before about post separation abuse awareness, something I have personally experienced and that often follows on at the end of an abusive relationship. Even before the post separation stuff, I was trapped in a very controlling relationship, which some would describe as being abusive.

Awareness campaigns highlight the signs of abuse and promote ways you can keep yourself safe and supported. However, it is equally important to talk about the journey of healing, and how tools like hypnotherapy can help you to regain control, confidence and calm after experiencing abuse. You can reclaim your confidence and find inner peace.

And this is important, because domestic abuse isn’t always visible. Many of the psychological and emotional impacts are internal and can be long lasting. Anxiety, low self esteem, PTSD, guilt, depression and even chronic feelings of fear or ‘being on edge’ can continue for months or years after the abuse has stopped.

I’ve worked with many clients who have left abusive relationships but who still carry the heavy emotional burden with them. Some struggle with flashbacks, nightmares or a constant sense of dread. Others have difficulty overcoming anxiety and with forming healthy relationships again. Those unhelpful patterns of thinking and feeling can leave you feeling stuck. And this is where hypnotherapy can offer gentle yet powerful support.

Hypnosis Myths

by Dan Regan | Sep 29, 2025 | Hypnotherapy Hypnosis and NLP

Hypnosis Myths – Hypnotherapy in Ely and Newmarket

There are still so many myths about hypnosis and hypnotherapy that continue to circulate out there.

In fact, one of the first things I tell anyone who comes to see me for a free initial consultation is that they should forget anything they’ve seen on TV or in a film. Most of it just makes me cringe!

Hypnosis is not about mind control or being made to do things against your will. There are no swinging watches or wacky practices involved.

Hypnotherapy is about using normal psychological processes in specific ways to help you to change and manage what is going on inside of your own head. Rather than being controlled by someone, you are learning how to orchestrate and direct for yourself the kind of things that go on inside your own head. If you were already fully in control over your thoughts, feelings and behaviours then you would simply change them in positive ways right now.

Hypnotherapy helps you to discover how to take charge of your own thoughts and feelings so that you can get on with your life in the way that you want to. And, even better, because through your sessions you learn how to manage, change and direct your thoughts and feelings, you will know how to keep things in a good place into the future.

Despite the ever growing body of science and evidence to support the effectiveness of hypnotherapy, many people miss out on feeling better because of the hypnosis myths they have been told. Rather than go with the myths, do look through the hundreds of articles and reviews on my website, or even better, come along for your free consultation and find out how you can start feeling more calm, confident and in control.

Post Separation Abuse Awareness Week

by Dan Regan | Sep 17, 2025 | Hypnotherapy Hypnosis and NLP

Post Separation Abuse Awareness Week

Post separation abuse awareness week takes place in September.

Whilst some relationships end amicably, many do not. It’s not uncommon for there to be some resentment, upset and bitterness when two people separate. It can be quite natural that no one has a good word to say about the other person for a while. But over time, these feelings subside and everyone gets on with their life. The past relationship becomes just an episode in your history.

However, post separation abuse goes way beyond this. Unless you or a loved one have experienced it, you may not even appreciate the levels of control, power, anger and upset that it is designed to generate against the targeted person.

This form of abuse refers to the continued control, intimidation and manipulation by one partner towards the other after the relationship has come to an end. The two people may not share the same room anymore, but the exertion of power and control continues as the perpetrator seeks to cause chaos in the other person’s life.

In many instances, the abusive power and control is something that was also a common theme in the relationship itself. Even if it wasn’t, the end of a relationship can generate all sorts of changed behaviour, emotions and mindset from the abuser as they move into the new dynamic and circumstances. It’s particularly common where there are ongoing shared responsibilities, such as children, property or finance, that mean that the abuser and survivor remain linked in some way.

I’ve helped many clients who are seeking help to find the assertiveness, resilience and confidence to deal with the abuse and to move forward within their lives. By calming the mind and emotions, you can find the inner strength you need to make decisions, remain resolute and find inner peace. It’s something that I have also experienced personally, where the only goal appears to have been to exert control and create a trail of fear, upset and pain.

Hypnotherapy for Horse Riders

by Dan Regan | Sep 16, 2025 | Hypnotherapy Hypnosis and NLP

Hypnotherapy for Horse Riders

Hypnotherapy for horse riders can help you to overcome riding anxiety, increase confidence and rediscover your love of riding.

I’ve helped many riders over the years to overcome issues around riding so they can feel calm and confident in the saddle. Some have had a fall and then worry about a repeat, especially if they were hurt when they fell. It may be that someone has a fear around going faster or galloping or there was a time when your horse got spooked and you felt powerless until they calmed down again. For others, their general tendency for worry and anxiety starts to spill into their relationship with their horse. And there are those who have struggled with performance anxiety around competing that stops them riding to their best.

You already know that your horse can pick up on your anxiety, doubt and tension. You stop feeling like you are the one in charge and in control. It all adds to the worry and overthinking as you find yourself making excuses not to ride and spending less and less time in the saddle.

That connection between rider and your horse becomes clouded by fear, anxiety and a lack of confidence. You might feel nervous every time you mount up, worry about falling or find yourself overthinking every movement. Everything around riding becomes flavoured with unhappiness and joylessness.

Whether something specific has happened when riding, or however anxiety and doubt have crept in, it is possible to interrupt the unwanted thoughts and feelings so that you feel calm, confident and in control when riding. You very much can get the fun, enjoyment and love back into your horse riding.

Hypnotherapy for horse riders can help you to take back control over your thoughts, feelings, actions and reactions. You can reconnect to your horse and your riding. You can reignite the inner confidence, trust and calm that helps makes riding enjoyable and rewarding for you again.

World Suicide Prevention Day

by Dan Regan | Sep 10, 2025 | Hypnotherapy Hypnosis and NLP

World Suicide Prevention Day

Every year on September 10th, World Suicide Prevention Day is observed to unite us all in raising awareness and breaking the stigma surrounding suicide. It’s an opportunity for promoting mental health care and support. Far too many people each year reach a point where they can see no other way forward, leaving a trail of loss and devastation behind them.

We all have a role to play in breaking the silence and stigma, and in showing others that they are loved and cared for and that there is hope. Every conversation, message, call, gesture or act of kindness has the power to change, and even save, a life.

When someone is suffering and in turmoil, they can feel isolated and alone with their thoughts and feelings. They may feel like a burden and not feel worthy of someone else’s time. That’s why we all need to be proactive in reaching out to others, checking in and investing a few minutes of time. As well, we can all continue promoting the help and support that is there and that can make all the difference for someone in emotional or psychological pain.

According to the World Health Organisation, more that 700,000 people die by suicide each year. Behind these numbers is a name, a person, a story and a life tragically cut short. Suicide affects the individual and the tragedy reaches to families, friends, colleagues and communities.

World Suicide Prevention Day is our opportunity to raise awareness, reduce stigma about talking about mental health and suicidal thoughts and to encourage others to seek help and be able to find it.

If you are struggling with your mental health and need some support then do call the NHS 111 number immediately to get support. There is more information here: NHS Mental Health Services. You can also reach the Samaritans on 116 123. Most importantly, please do reach out and talk to someone right now.

New Mental Health Podcast Coming Soon

by Dan Regan | Aug 18, 2025 | Anxiety Stress and Panic Attacks, Hypnotherapy Hypnosis and NLP

New Mental Health Podcast Coming Soon

I’m excited to let you know that I have a new mental health podcast coming soon!

I’m super excited about this as it is something I have always wanted to do so that I can reach more people and help them with tackling issues such as anxiety, worry and overthinking. I’ve teamed up with the biggest community group in Ely and we’ll be working together to benefit people in the area. I can’t wait!

I’ll be sharing the link to episodes on here and it should sit nicely with my ongoing articles here and as an Ely Standard columnist. I want to help as many people as I can to overcome anxiety, boost confidence and take back control over their thoughts, feelings and behaviours.

Now I’ve just got to work out how to use the technology (including cutting out the bloopers I will undoubtedly make!) and I’ll be all set. I hope to get started in the Autumn and then develop and grow the mental health podcast each episode (so be kind at the start, ok?!)

National Relaxation Day – Free Hypnosis Audio

by Dan Regan | Aug 14, 2025 | Hypnotherapy Hypnosis and NLP

National Relaxation Day – Free Hypnosis Audio

August 15th is National Relaxation Day!

Research, evidence and good old common sense tells us that taking some time out is good for our mental health. In the midst of our busy, and often stressful, lifestyles, taking time out is often placed on the back burner. We get engrossed in getting stuff done or staring at a screen. Taking time to relax becomes something to get around to when there is time. All too often, the time only arrives when the burnout, anxiety and stress becomes too much.

It isn’t only when life becomes overwhelming that relaxation is important. It is something that we can, and should, all build into managing and maintaining good mental health.

Indeed, by taking time out to relax, you’ll most likely feel able to concentrate better, focus better and so get more done than you would by just ploughing on and on. What’s more, the time you use to relax can often lead to valuable insights and ideas that benefit your life.

If you struggle with anxiety, stress or poor sleep then taking time to switch off on National Relaxation Day, and on other days, is a bit of a must.

Many of you may already have a copy of my free Rapid Relaxation hypnosis download. I get a lot of positive feedback about it. And if you want to download your copy then

Healing After Narcissistic Abuse

by Dan Regan | Aug 13, 2025 | Hypnotherapy Hypnosis and NLP

Healing After Narcissistic Abuse

In this article I’m covering healing after narcissistic abuse, although in many ways it applies to recovery after any form of abusive relationship regardless of how it is categorised and labelled.

I’ve written previously about the stages of narcissistic abuse. The early love bombing develops into devaluation and control. Then comes the discard as the narcissist either senses a loss of control or power, or craves a new supply. You won’t know it until it happens but they have been smearing you and paving the way for this moment for a long time. They portray themselves as the victim of your abuse and use the sympathy of others to recruit their supporters against you.

A narcissistic relationship doesn’t just have to be of a romantic type. Narcissistic abuse can take place in friendships, relationships or in the work place. But regardless of the context, when you’ve been in a relationship with a narcissist, you will know about it. The damage of the abuse doesn’t always show on the outside. Inside, it can feel like your self-esteem, your voice and your sense of self have all been dismantled and destroyed. You find yourself disorientated and lost in a world where, through their control and manipulation, you no longer feel equipped to cope.

Narcissistic abuse comes with manipulation, gas-lighting, love bombing and emotional invalidation. When it comes to an end, you are left confused, anxious and unsure of who you really are. You are left a shell of who you once were.

But healing is possible and achievable. That doesn’t mean just ‘getting over it’ and moving on. Healing after narcissistic abuse is about rebuilding, reconnecting and rediscovering your voice and who you really are. If you’ve reached this point you are more resilient and capable that you could even imagine. And now you can recover and rise.

However much pain you are in right now, it is possible to heal from narcissistic abuse, to regain your sense of self and to move forward purposefully with your life.

Here’s how the journey of healing after narcissistic abuse begins:

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