Get The Confidence Habit – Hypnotherapy in Ely and Newmarket

I’ve had a busy week helping people turbo charge their confidence so they know they can achieve the things they want to with their life. As someone who used to suffer with a low self esteem, I know what a limiting impact it can have for you when you doubt your own confidence.

One of my recent clients who lacked confidence told me she would often feel uncomfortable around other people, especially in a group or if she didn’t know them very well.  She just sort of assumed they weren’t very interested in what she had to say and probably weren’t that keen on having her there anyway.

So she would avoid these sorts of situations as much as possible, and if it couldn’t be avoided the whole thing would turn into an anxious ordeal where she couldn’t think of anything to say, would feel uncomfortable and would want to disappear into the background until the whole thing was over.

 

Quick Summary

Confidence is rarely something that appears overnight.

More often, confidence develops through small habits that change the way you think, feel and behave.

In this article you’ll discover:

• why confidence often disappears
• how anxious habits keep confidence low
• why avoiding situations makes confidence harder to build
• simple ways to develop confident habits
• how confidence grows through action rather than waiting to feel ready

Many people spend years waiting to feel confident before taking action. In reality, confidence usually grows because of the actions we take.

 

Related Resources

You may also find these helpful:

• Confidence & Self-Esteem Hub
• Confidence & Self-Esteem Hypnotherapy in Ely
• Low Confidence and Anxiety: Why They’re Often Linked
• How To Build Confidence and Self-Esteem
• How To Tame Your Inner Critic
• How To Stop Overthinking In Social Situations
• Hypnotherapy Reviews in Ely

 

One Thing I Learned About Confidence

When my confidence was low, I used to think confident people felt completely different from me. I imagined they woke up feeling motivated, self-assured and ready for anything.

What I eventually realised was that many confident people still experience doubts, nerves and uncertainty.

The difference is often that they have developed habits that keep them moving forward despite those feelings.

Confidence isn’t usually something you suddenly find. It’s something you practise.

The more often you act confidently, the easier confidence becomes.

 

Reducing Your Confidence

And if it wasn’t enough to feel uncomfortable when in situations, when you lack confidence you can spend a lot of time thinking and dwelling on them, even when you are outside the situations.

You might replay and go over things that have already happened, finding more and more negative aspects and beating yourself up over what you did do or should have done – a case of unhappiness by analysis.

If that sounds familiar, you may also find this article helpful: How To Stop Overthinking In Social Situations.

Or you might feel that anxiety and worry about future situations and how they may unfold, feeling worried even as you imagine being uncomfortable in situations that haven’t happened yet.

And even in the moment, when your lack of confidence is at the strongest, your mind may go blank, you may feel hot and sweaty, and your mind races as you ‘go inside’ yourself and struggle.

 

Increase Your Confidence

Low confidence is often something that develops over time through experiences, habits of thinking and repeated patterns of behaviour.And sooner or later you started to consider yourself to be someone who lacks all the confidence you need.

The client I was working with came back and told me that the week before she had been out with a large group of people, only some of whom she knew, and she had chatted and felt comfortable for hours on end. She had walked into crowded rooms, sat in busy meetings and even learnt to say no when she needed to.

She felt comfortable in her own skin, she walked taller and she felt free to choose how to act and react around others. She was enjoying her work and contributing more to it. It all seemed so effortless when she had all the confidence she needed.

 

Get The Confidence Habit

To get the confidence habit you need to:

1) Take control of your self-talk. It’s time to ditch the downbeat, whinging voice in your head. Talk to yourself in a confident tone, remind yourself of your progress, be your own best friend. Remind yourself whatever happens, you’ll be ok.

If self-criticism is a particular challenge, you may also find How To Tame Your Inner Critic helpful.

2) Use your body confidently. Stand a bit taller, look up more, relax your shoulders and develop your confidence posture.

3) Take immediate action. There comes a point where you have to end the analysis and just go and do something. Feel the fear, feel the excitement and take that initial step forward. Nothing happens until you do something.

Do these three things every day and get your confidence habit.

 

Frequently Asked Questions About Confidence

Can confidence become a habit?

Yes. Many confident behaviours become easier through repetition. The more often you challenge yourself, speak up, take action and respond differently to self-doubt, the more natural confidence begins to feel.

Why does my confidence disappear around other people?

Confidence often drops when anxiety, fear of judgement or self-consciousness increase. Many people who feel confident alone struggle in social situations because they become overly focused on what others might think.

Can confidence improve without changing my personality?

Absolutely. Confidence is not about becoming louder, more outgoing or more extroverted. It is about becoming more comfortable being yourself.

Why does avoiding situations reduce confidence?

Avoidance creates short-term relief but teaches the brain that situations are threatening. The more you avoid, the harder confidence becomes to build.

Can hypnotherapy help confidence?

Many people find hypnotherapy helps reduce anxiety, fear, self-doubt and overthinking while increasing confidence, self-belief and emotional resilience.

 

Support for Confidence

Confidence is not about becoming a completely different person. More often, it is about learning to trust yourself, back yourself and become more comfortable being who you already are.

If low confidence, self-doubt or fear of failure have been affecting your life, support is available.

You can learn more here:

• Confidence & Self-Esteem Hypnotherapy in Ely
• Confidence & Self-Esteem Hub
• Anxiety Support Hub

The confidence hub contains articles on confidence building, self-esteem, fear of judgement, impostor syndrome, comparison, self-criticism and related confidence issues.

Or if you’d like to talk things through first:

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To your confidence and self-esteem,

Dan Regan

Anxiety Therapy and Hypnotherapy in Ely & Newmarket

 

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