Do you worry excessively about what others think about you?

Maybe you are scared of rejection or failing and so you put on a mask around others and feel anxious because you aren’t being yourself.

Worrying about what others think can drain your confidence and leave you feeling stuck, unhappy and avoiding doing or saying the things you really want to. You may worry about being criticised or messing up or freezing or in some other way giving people the opportunity to think badly about you.

Recently I was working with a client who would let others rule her life - she was too afraid to say no and be thought of badly or invite hostility - and so she put her own life on standby waiting to be called to help others live theirs.

And another person stayed in a job he hated that didn't earn enough for him to live on because he felt he wasn't good enough to move onto bigger and better things.

Benefit of the Doubt 

Chances are, being a nice person, you yourself think positively or at worst, just neutrally, about most others. 

So set yourself this task today:

Go through today giving others the benefit of the doubt – stop assuming they are nasty, horrible people who think terrible things about you all day – and start assuming they probably think you are ok, maybe they even like you, or maybe they are as busy thinking about their own worries, stresses and lives that they don’t give you that much thought at all!

Give others the benefit of the doubt and give yourself the freedom to start being yourself around others…then I’m sure others will have a lot more positive things to say and think about you!

Dan Regan

Hypnotherapy in Ely & Newmarket