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Narcissistic Abuse Stages

by Dan Regan | Apr 23, 2025 | Hypnotherapy Hypnosis and NLP

The 5 Stages of Narcissistic Abuse: Understanding the Cycle

Have you suffered at the hands of narcissistic abuse?

If you have been in a relationship with a narcissist that has come to an end then you will know it because of the painful way it will have unfolded. You’ll have been discarded, tossed aside and subject to emotional and psychological abuse along the way. Even before you are discarded, the narcissist will have been playing the victim behind your back, recruiting their supporters and laying their plans to exert even more power and control over you.

There is no simple way to put it, narcissistic abuse is painful and abusive. You will be on the back foot and confused by what is happening. Your good name will be dragged through the mud by those who buy into their false accusations and stories of how you were the problem. Narcissists prey upon kind, caring and empathetic people because those very qualities mean you won’t see the abuse that is happening to you. You may not even spot how they devalued you and controlled you during the relationship. Only when it is over will you realise you have lost your sense of worth and your identity. The narcissist was only ever interested in having power and control over you.

Just when you need to be at your strongest, you realise they have stolen your own sense of who you are. You are left broken, confused and alone. The narcissist will have already isolated you from some, if not all, of those you were once close to. And many of the rest will buy into the victim story that they are being convincingly fed. It may be a quick process, or you may find that they have been spreading their lies about you for weeks, months or even years before you first know anything about it.

If you’ve ever felt like a relationship started like a fairy tale and ended in emotional chaos, you’re not alone. Narcissistic abuse follows a pattern. It’s a cycle that leaves you confused, heartbroken, and wondering how things went so wrong. Understanding the stages of narcissistic abuse can help you make sense of what happened. It won’t change what has happened, especially as the narcissist lacks any personal insight and they think they have no need to change anything about themselves (in their story you are, and always were, the problem). However, knowledge can help you to start healing and to move on from the abuse you have endured.

Ely Standard Columnist – Hypnotherapist Dan Regan

by Dan Regan | Apr 11, 2025 | Hypnotherapy Hypnosis and NLP

Ely Standard Columnist – Hypnotherapist Dan Regan

I’m delighted to confirm that I am now an Ely Standard columnist!

My first article has now been published in the Standard and I’ve included the link to the online version for you below. Do have a read and let me know what you think.

I’ll be back in the paper again next month with a new column.

In the article I cover the mental health benefits of time in nature. There is a whole wealth of research and evidence that shows that spending time in nature can help boost mental health and reduce symptoms of anxiety and stress. Even better, the positive benefits don’t actually require too much time or effort to achieve.

Here in Ely, we are blessed to have a lot of nature to enjoy that is easily on hand. I love walking and running along the river, or sitting in the sun and just watching the river roll on by. Wherever you are there is bound to be some nature nearby that you can call upon to support your mental health.

Confidence Hypnotherapy

by Dan Regan | Apr 8, 2025 | Confidence and Self Esteem

Confidence Hypnotherapy

Would you benefit from confidence hypnotherapy sessions?

A lack of confidence can have a massively limiting impact upon your life. There are things you want to do, and that you see others doing, yet you doubt your own ability and capability to take those positive steps forward. You may feel anxious around certain people and in certain situations and circumstances. You overthink, worry about being judged or failing, and talk yourself out of things.

Many people live their lives with a constant stream of negative inner dialogue that tells them they aren’t good enough. You may dwell upon perceived mistakes or the things you’ve said and done. It may feel that you never quite hit the mark in your interactions and in the things you do. You may worry what others think, have difficulty saying no and struggle with compliments. And you overthink and feel anxious. It can feel like you are faking it while everyone else seems to have their stuff in life together.

A lack of confidence stops you enjoying life to the fullest. You feel bad as you criticise and blame yourself, often assuming that things must be your fault. You berate yourself inside your own negative thoughts and you stay in your comfort zone, avoiding new challenges. You may compare yourself negatively to others, worry about what others think and fear making mistakes.

A lack of confidence permeates into all aspects of your life. You may doubt your ability to cope with challenges, avoid social situations and hold yourself back in your career.

Confidence hypnotherapy can help you to start feeling more comfortable in yourself and in your life. You start to trust in yourself and you gain a sense of perspective, knowing that whatever happens, you’ll deal with it. You start to feel good enough and you encourage and support yourself as you navigate your life and move forward in ways that please you.

Hypnosis for Anxiety in Ely and Newmarket

by Dan Regan | Apr 3, 2025 | Anxiety Stress and Panic Attacks

Hypnosis for Anxiety in Ely and Newmarket

Would you like to learn more about hypnosis for anxiety in Ely and Newmarket? If you could use some help to overcome your anxiety then do jump to the bottom of this page and follow the link to book your free consultation.

Anxiety can take over your life. Those uncomfortable feelings and worst case, catastrophic, thoughts can fill you with dread. Your mind races, your heart pounds and you struggle to think clearly or switch off. The more anxious you feel, you more you worry about it and the cycle keeps going. You’ve probably also started avoiding things that you used to enjoy or you find you are struggling to face people, even when you know them well.

There are the sleepless nights with the hours and hours enduring the endless battle with your overthinking. You are tired and so the next day feels even harder to endure. Your appetite is affected and you feel even more depleted. You may even be worrying about whether you will ever feel normal again. What if your anxiety is here to stay?

If this sounds like you, then please know that there is hope. You can take back control over your thoughts and feelings and start feeling better. My hypnotherapy can help you find your freedom from anxiety. You can and will feel better again.

Emetophobia Hypnotherapy

by Dan Regan | Apr 2, 2025 | Phobias and Fears

Emetophobia Hypnotherapy

Helping people through emetophobia hypnotherapy is perhaps more common than you may think. Many people struggle with a fear of vomiting, often hiding their anxiety and avoiding situations that may be challenging.

Emetophobia is a very common issue that I help people with. If you have a fear of vomiting then you may try to hide it from others. You avoid situations and people that you consider to be high risk. And the possibility of encountering vomit (in yourself or others) is constantly at the forefront of your awareness. It can dominate your daily life.

Often the anxiety has elements around the possibility of other people being sick. You may avoid social situations, crowded places or places where people drink. If someone says they feel sick or coughs and splutters then you are immediately on high alert. If you’ve seen vomit somewhere then you may totally avoid going to that place, and similar places, again. Things like travel are filled with risk and dread. And if someone has been unwell then you may avoid them way beyond when they have recovered.

You will also worry about being sick yourself. If you were to catch something then it would be catastrophic. You may avoid alcohol or certain ‘high risk’ foods. You may feel like you are on constant alert for how you feel. If you get a sensation in your stomach or at the back of your throat then you start to panic about whether this is it, this could be the time you actually vomit.

Of course, everyone has an association of unpleasantness around vomit and being sick. No one wants to be unwell or to be exposed to it.

Is Hypnotherapy Right For You?

by Dan Regan | Apr 2, 2025 | Hypnotherapy Hypnosis and NLP

Is Hypnotherapy Right For You?

Hypnotherapy, is it right for you? If you’ve never experienced hypnotherapy before then you may wonder whether it is right for you. There are all sorts of outdated misapprehensions and ideas that go around about hypnosis. You may have an idea of being controlled, revealing secrets or that it is not based upon science.

All of these are, of course, untrue. Hypnosis is all about changing the habits and patterns that you are currently battling with. It could be anxiety, panic attacks, low self-esteem, stress or overthinking. Right now, those thoughts, feelings and behaviours just repeat and repeat. They may ease for a while but they are soon back in force. It can feel frustrating to know what you need to change but to struggle with making it happen so that you feel better.

In essence, I would describe hypnotherapy as being all about how you can learn to take back control over the things that go on inside of your head. Rather than being thrown through life from one negative thought and feeling to the next, you take back control. You get to start feeling calmer, more confident and happier.

And there is lots of science and evidence to support the benefits of hypnosis for help with things like anxiety. I covered a lot of the research in these website articles. You may also have taken a look at the hundreds of positive reviews that others have left after their hypnotherapy sessions. Many of these people started out with scepticism and uncertainty, yet they ended feeling better in themselves.

Naturally, you want to make sure that you feel comfortable with the hypnotherapist you are going to be working with. That’s why I always suggest that you come for a free consultation before going ahead with sessions. This gives me a chance to learn a bit more about what you are seeking help with, and I will explain how I work and how I can help you. I also answer any questions you may have so that we both have an agreed clear understanding of how we will move things forward towards getting you a beneficial outcome.

SME Cambridgeshire Business Awards – Dan Regan Hypnotherapy in Ely

by Dan Regan | Mar 12, 2025 | Hypnotherapy Hypnosis and NLP

SME Cambridgeshire Business Awards 2025 – Dan Regan Hypnotherapy in Ely

It’s that time of the year again when the finalists in the SME Cambridgeshire Business Awards get announced.

I’m delighted to say that for the third year in a row, I’m a finalist in the awards! Woop! Woop! After a very tough year for me personally, this really is a magnificent achievement that I’m super proud about. Some of you will know about what’s been going on in my life outside work and I’m very grateful for all the love, support and encouragement sent my way, it’s really helped me to stay strong and keep going. Onward and upward!

This year, I am a finalist in two categories; Business Person of the Year and Ely Business of the Year. Please do wish me luck for the award final in June.

And thank you so much for all of your ongoing support for my hypnotherapy business and for all of your ongoing, amazing, positive reviews (check them out here: What People Say). I’ll be celebrating fifteen years of helping people later this year and I’m as passionate and determined to help even more people as I have ever been.

Confidence Playing Football – Hypnotherapy Ely and Newmarket

by Dan Regan | Mar 9, 2025 | Confidence and Self Esteem, Sports Improvement

Confidence Playing Football – Hypnotherapy Ely and Newmarket

Has your confidence playing football taken a dip? Or maybe you know you have more to give on the pitch but your confidence when playing football isn’t where you want it to be.

Anyone who plays football knows that where your head is at before and during a game will affect how you play. It could be day to day anxiety and stress that you carry with you onto the pitch. Maybe your general confidence and self-esteem levels aren’t as high as you would like them to be and this plays out in your game. And for many players, their own tendency to worry about being judged negatively or to be overly harsh and self-critical towards themselves, can impact on performance.

I’ve worked with players who make one mistake on the pitch and then their thoughts are stuck on that moment even when the game has moved on. Something shouted at you from someone on the side of the pitch can get in your head and you start playing with doubt and nerves. You miss a tackle, get booked, mess up a shot a goal, make an error and you concede or any other number of perceived or actual mistakes and mishaps that can be part of a game.

You start to dwell upon your performance and what you think you did, or didn’t, do well in the game. Instead of playing naturally you overthink and force things. You start to feel more nervous and anxious in the warm up and even in training. You start to think that you aren’t good enough. Your head can drop and you spend large parts of the game more focused in your own imagination and negative self-talk rather than responding to what is going on around you. Your performance suffers and you feel even worse.

When your confidence levels while playing football are good, everything just flows. You respond instinctively, your concentration levels are good, things just click and you are in the zone where you play at your best. Your thoughts, feelings, ability and performance all come together for you in these moments. Yet when your confidence levels dip, everything becomes harder. You don’t play to your best, things just seem a bit off for you and you can even start to lose the joy for the game that you once had. That’s where football confidence hypnotherapy can step in so that you can step up.

Insomnia Help – Hypnotherapy To Sleep Better

by Dan Regan | Mar 6, 2025 | Insomnia and Sleep Disorders

Insomnia Help – Hypnotherapy To Sleep Better

Do you struggle with insomnia and need some help to start sleeping better again?

Sleep is so important for your physical and mental health and well-being. You already know this. And if your sleep isn’t that great, then it starts to impact upon each and every part of your life. You feel tired, drained and exhausted all day. You struggle with focus, concentration and motivation. And you feel more stressed, anxious and irritable as you drag yourself through another day of tiredness.

It maybe that you struggle to switch off and stop thinking so that you can get to sleep at night. And many people wake up in the night and find that their mind just gets going and starts buzzing away. You want to sleep, you know that you’ll be tired the next day if you don’t. You get more and more frustrated with your inability to sleep well. And like most patterns, it starts to become an unwelcome habit to lie awake at night for hour after hour with just your own thoughts for company.

You’ll have tried all sorts of things and sleeping aids already without success. You start to anticipate sleeping badly and may even feel anxious through the evening and about going to bed.

Sleep problems could be said to be reaching crisis levels. It’s estimated that one in every three adults struggles to get enough sleep. Insomnia leads to more stress, being less productive and increased health risks. You start to stress about sleep more and more and, in so doing, you inadvertently stop yourself naturally switching off and into sleep.

If you are battling with insomnia (or maybe you’ve just become resigned to it) and want to sleep better then hypnotherapy is a scientifically backed way to calm the mind and promote deep, natural sleep.

Can Anyone Be Hypnotised? Hypnotherapy Ely and Newmarket

by Dan Regan | Mar 6, 2025 | Hypnotherapy Hypnosis and NLP

Can Anyone Be Hypnotised? Hypnotherapy Ely and Newmarket

Can anyone be hypnotised? During a free consultation that I have with someone before they start hypnotherapy, this is one of the most common questions that I get. After all, if you are going to enjoy the positive results of hypnotherapy, you want to know that you can be hypnotised so that you benefit form your sessions.

And I think that this idea, that only some people are ‘susceptible’ to hypnosis, comes mainly from stage shows and film depictions of hypnosis. In these, people seem to slump with their eyes closed into some altered state of consciousness that they later have no recollection about. They then do whatever they are told to do, which is often fantastical. The first thing I say to clients is to dismiss anything they’ve seen or heard from these environments out of their mind.

We are all suggestible to some degree. You stop at a red light, you do what your manager tells you, you hear your phone beep and you pick it up to take a look. In every interaction, conversation and relationship we all have cues and suggestions that we respond to. With hypnosis, you are just learning how to suggest certain things around your own thoughts and feelings to yourself in beneficial ways. You are taking back control over the things that go on inside of your own mind.

When you come to see me there is some aspect of your thoughts, feelings and behaviours that you are currently struggling with. Whether it is anxiety, stress, panic attacks, lack of confidence, eating habits or smoking, you don’t feel in control over that part of your life. Hypnotherapy helps you to master your own inner dialogue, imagination, motivations, expectations, emotions and behaviours so that you move forward feeling better and better equipped to successfully tackle the trials and tribulations that life will throw at you and so that you can progress with positivity towards being the best version of you.

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